I TURN THE PERSON I LOVE
ON THE COMMON
What man hasn't felt it? There's the one, the special one that I absolutely must be with! I'll do anything. I'll say anything. I'll sacrifice anything, but I must get to know that person. I know what I feel. I've never felt this way before. If I get with that person, I'll be saved: I'll finally feel OK. My life will be happy. And if I don't get with that person, I'll be lost. I'm always hunting for relationship.
Maybe I don't have much difficulty in getting to meet that person. Maybe I establish a relationship fairly easily. But, then something always seems to go wrong. The special one doesn't turn out to be what I expected. Before long, things are definitely growing sour. It might even feel I'm in a kind of prison.
I might be the type of man who lives the same drama "upside down." I'm ever so cautious. I'm wary of relationships, and am careful "before I get involved" …so careful I never get near anyone. Every relationship is about keeping the necessary distance. I never want a relationship. It's dangerous.Either way, somehow I end up feeling lonely. Way down, I feel so alone, it's as though I might never crawl out of the hole inside my chest…or never get past the dark pain that always lives there.
This Spring, the Village of Brothers will gather at Camp Hi Rock to explore whatever feelings we invest into relationship: friendship as well as love. As always, we gather not to subject ourselves to some philosophy or belief system. We meet so every man may know more deeply what he feels, who he is whenever he enters a relationship.
Each one of us will do that according to his own history, his own experience of relationships. So every man who joins us brings his own valuable, irreplaceable treasure of knowledge and ignorance to the Village. You are truly welcome with whatever gift you bring us.
Please join Paul, John, (Ringo, and George!) and the Village of your Brothers this May to experience yourself as you truly are. All men welcome.
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