Why Is Perfection The Enemy?


WHEN: Friday, Saturday, Sunday October 18, 19, 20 2013
About 4:00 o’clock Friday to about 2:30/3:00 Sunday

in Mt. Washington Township, MA.
About Two Hours N of NYC.
Directions and Details Supplied by phone to ALL Registrants.
>>Car Pool Transportation Arranged If You Have No Car<<
HOW MUCH: $180 Donation. Covers Accommodations & Six Meals*

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A perfect relationship. A perfect job. Perfect feelings. A perfect friend. Perfect results. A perfect day. What could seem more like the perfect friend than perfection?

We take the desire for it perfectly for granted!

Yet, somehow, perfection often eludes us. I just don’t feel right. My partner turns out to be different from what I thought. I hate my job. Love has let me down. I could feel better. Anyway, I can’t really figure out what I want…or should want.

It seems there are so many ways to express the lack of perfection that actually is in our lives. So why is its absence such a mystery?



This October, amidst the piercing beauty of Fall in the Berkshires, the brothers of On The Common Ground will gather at Camp Hi Rock to explore our hearts and the heart of our questions about what in fact makes perfection such an enemy.

As before, we will use talk, silence, laughter, play, and above all the prayer of the Sweat Lodge to yield answers that we can use daily.

Each man of us is encouraged to examine the unique ways that “I personally” crave for perfection. Each man of us is encouraged to name the personal ways in which perfection is my enemy. Please join us. Please add your wisdom to our community.

JOHN GUARNASCHELLI - is a practicing therapist in NYC, founder of OTCG. He is author of numerous articles on Men's Work that affirm love of self, of others and of the world. He has offered Retreats for men since 1991.

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WHAT TO BRING: Personal Toiletries, Pillow and Bedding (Sheets and Blanket or Sleeping Bag), TWO Towels (One for the Sweat), Sweater or Light Jacket (Evenings Can be Nippy in October), a Flashlight, Individual Water Bottle (To Bring into the Sweat).

Or Sign via Mail Here! Please send in your registration as soon as you possibly can: the camp requires us to have at least 20 attendees. As quickly as possible, we need to know we have the twenty men. And don’t let money stop you. If paying the whole amount is a problem, our fee is “too close to the bone” for special amounts. But we can arrange post dated payments. For Any Further Information:
Call: (212) 265-0584 E-mail: JohnGuarn@aol.com

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