"HOW DO YOU HONOR YOUR OWN AUTHORITY?"
ON THE COMMON
Authority is a ghost issue…a problem that doesn't exist! Why? …because from birth on almost everything conspires to make it disappear.
Perhaps we were born into a family where everyone else’s needs automatically took priority…dad’s demands, mom’s needs, a sibling’s point of view, or superior power...the subtle emotional messages that were imposed beneath the surface.
The school system continues the lesson. Grammar school, and worst of all high school, impose “learning” that is far more important than we are. …not to mention the torture we suffered if we weren't the alpha male, or if we constantly had to be.
Finally, if we do awaken to what is going on inside us, we encounter all the “good advice” that completes the job of robbing our authority under the guise of helping or healing.
The net result is often that we are left “dealing with problems” …how to establish successful relationships, what profession to choose, how to make money, feel better, be less fearful, angry, nervous, or hopeless.
Yet, for some reason, the beat goes on…because the heart of the problem has long since disappeared from view. I have grown so mistrustful of myself that I don’t even realize how little I trust myself. Every “healer” out there, every self help book, every workshop or retreat holds the solution to my needs. He or it knows, I never do.
This Fall, the Village of Brothers will gather at the edge of our lake at Camp Hi Rock to consider the issue of our own personal authority. Do I even realize I might have it? How do I really feel about it? Where and how do I doubt it, or give it away?
Above all, what might it feel like to know my own authority? …to trust myself? ..to believe in myself, my own directions? ...my own voice? How would it feel to rely on myself in my relationships? ...in choosing a profession? ...or a direction? What if even my doubts are valuable?
No man alive is without a contribution to make to our experience of
this issue. Please add your experience to ours. What you bring will be
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