"DO YOU LIVE IN YOUR BODY?"
ON THE COMMON
What a strange question! Where else could I live after all? Aren't we men the physical ones? The ones who labor with our bodies? Who think only of sex? Who are the exercise junkies? Who fixate on women's bodies?
But the question is not so weird. Feelings are bodily sensations. As a child, was I shamed out of them, and therefore out of my body?
And what did I learn about treating my body as a man? Is acknowledging it (except for that one precious place, of course) a basic taboo? Do I relate to my own sensuality? Am I allowed to feel a caress? ... the colors of autumn? ... a kiss, a poem, or a soft melody?
Do I take care of my health? See a doctor with any regularity? Exercise the right amount? What do I do about aches, pains, or wounds? Do I eat for health and pleasure ... or do I just get it down without even realizing what I'm eating or tasting?
And what about clothes and grooming? Are the really fine clothes for my partner, or my children while what I need can wait ... not so urgent after all?
How about acknowledging other men? God forbid I should even notice another man's looks ... despite the Marlboro man!
God forbid we should touch ... unless, of course, we're punching hell out of each other, or winning the World Series. And, do we notice it's perfectly OK to end action films with a grand shoot up of 30 to 50 male bodies ... while even the female villain stands a good chance of getting out with her body intact?
Maybe we men live far less in our bodies than we believe! Maybe even reading about it right here is too scary.
Whatever we have learned in the past, as adult men, we can gather to address the fine things our bodies may teach us. How we may experience joy in living. What we are allowed to delight in. How to see the beauty in ourselves, our loved ones, and the world we live in.
This Fall, the Village of Brothers will gather for the tenth time at Camp Hi Rock amid the blazing colors of the autumn trees ... a perfect setting for asking questions about our bodies. We'll use exercises, play, silence, discussion, and the sweat lodge to allow every man to confront his own personal experience about his own body.
As usual, we will take every precaution to safeguard each man's experience ... above all by allowing him to rely on his own power to protect and defend himself. Please feel free to join us.
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