In every age, men have set out on pilgrimages, on spiritual journeys, on personal quests. Driven by pain, drawn by longing, lifted by hope, singly and in groups they come in search of relief, enlightenment, peace, power, joy or they know not what...This should not surprise us. Crises marked by anxiety, doubt, and despair. . . occur. . . when a man is sufficiently unsettled to have an opportunity for personal growth. . . So. . .the. . .longing for growth is the central force of his pilgrimage.
—Sheldon B. Kopp



I. The Call

II. Departure/Entry

III. The One Guide

IV. Trial

V. Passage

VI. Return

VII. Home



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I. Am I open to going inside myself to understand myself and the events of my life?
What do I have to learn today?


...I wept. I said to my soul, "What have you done with the garden entrusted to you"
—Antonio Machado
tr. R. Bly
...nothing can be sole or whole that has not first been rent!
—William Butler Yeats
For him who confesses, shams are over and realities have begun...
—William James
The way out of the labyrinth is to keep your hand on the cold, damp, shuddering wall of your humiliation.
—Nor Hall

II. In what ways does my story make me want to understand myself?
Do I achieve what I want for myself?
What hopes, difficulties, or needs
bring me to where I am?


It so happens I am sick of my feet and my nails and my hair and my shadow.
It so happens I am sick of being a man.
       Still it would be marvelous
        to terrify a law clerk with a cut lily,
       or...go through the streets with a green knife
       letting out yells until I died of the cold.
—Pablo Neruda
tr. R. Bly
The...psyche knows both its limits and its potential. If the former are...exceeded, or the latter not realized, a breakdown occurs.
—Daryl Sharp
When we are so wounded...nothing else will avail, when we find we can do nothing...that will restore ...meaning to our lives, then we reluctantly go to our souls.
—Robert Johnson
I never suspected...I would have to learn how to live-- that there were specific disciplines and ways of seeing ...I had to master before I could awaken to...life.
—Dan Millman

III. Do I believe I can ask for, and receive,
support in finding my way?
Where can I get the help I need?
What do I need help for?


Communication leads to community--that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson
Behind an able man there are always other able men.
—Chinese Proverb
...psychoanalysis has no monopoly on the power to heal. ...Art and poetry have always been altering our ways of sensing and feeling--that is to say, altering the human body.
—Norman O. Brown
Accepting an initiatory task is more important than succeeding or failing at it...initiation truly means to expand sideways into the glory of oaks, mountains, glaciers, horses, lions, grasses, waterfalls, deer. We need wilderness and extravagance.
—Robert Bly

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